Who Is In Your Way?
We are not born programmed to be negative thinkers. Self doubt is something that is learned. Yes, for some of us, outside influences help confirm that doubt in our minds, but the ultimate responsibility for that self doubt falls on each individual. This sounds harsh, I know. I also know that once we assume accountability for our own feelings of worth and finally conquer the negative feelings we have gathered about ourselves, we are then capable of achieving great things. No matter what your background is, no matter what your story is, 99% of the time, the only one standing in your way is YOU.
The Smallest Changes Can Make The Biggest Difference
I don’t do many strictly motivational posts. I also hesitate to do these posts because I don’t want anyone to think that I believe that success comes only from your thoughts. Success comes from hard work. Going one step further, success comes from structured hard work. Success also is generally the result of a lot of failure, too. Those lessons learned in business – and in life – can be powerful educators, can’t they?
But today, I want to talk about the ultimate power behind the hard work part. I get many emails from people who tell me that they are not smart enough, or they’re not good enough, or they can’t this or they can’t that. For me, this is absolutely THE hardest part about my going public with all this.
How can I help people who don’t even believe in themselves?
How can I teach others how to believe and have faith… how to keep moving forward – keep trying – when THEY are telling ME that they can’t?
This bothers me to no end. I struggle with this constantly.
A genuine question I get from others is why do I keep trying to help those that don’t believe in their own capabilities?
Because it’s my nature.
Because of my own life experiences, I KNOW that people ARE capable of so much more than they ask of themselves. I KNOW people are capable of so, so, SO much more than those in their lives think they are capable of. I learned this about myself and I want others to KNOW this about themselves.
One of the biggest turn arounds in my life was when I started playing golf. I started “late” in life compared to kids these days. My second child has just started kindergarten and I had some time on my hands during the day. I wanted to learn how to golf.
NOT the easiest sport to just decide to pick up – and I am not really a physical/sports type person. But I was determined.
I do believe that my golf experience is something that really helped me while learning internet marketing.
I wasn’t afraid to screw up. I knew each time I totally screwed a shot up, that I would learn something and hopefully not do it again. Also, golf is one of the few sports that YOU are completely accountable for your results. Sure, you’d get a bad bounce here or there, but ultimately if that putt didn’t go in the hole, or that tee shot went 500 yards dead right, it was ME.
The Funny Thing About Golf And Internet Marketing
To me, golf and internet marketing are very, very similar. Each time I totally screwed up a shot in golf, I KNEW I was inches…maybe even millimeters away from success. With internet marketing, I also knew that each time I screwed up by choosing the wrong keywords or bad copy or bad marketing angle, that I was so, so, so close to doing it right. I also knew that I could then cross that OFF my list and I was now that much closer to learning the right ways and doing it RIGHT.
I have never before come across a speaker who articulated this the way I see it – until today. And go figure that it is Tony Robbins that has a great motivational mini-video on the golf/success analogy and how small changes can make such a HUGE difference in the outcome of ANYTHING you do.
I hope y’all will watch this. To me, the conviction that Tony Robbins has is contagious and that is probably why he is one of the most successful motivation speakers in the world. Whether I agree with everything he says or not, I am motivated by the overwhelming belief he has in what he is doing. I admire that to no end.
Just a quick note to those at work or with children in the room – he says two words that are not overly offensive (to me), but may not be suitable for an environment with kids around to hear – or the boss around to hear…lol.
At the end of the video there are some words on the screen that I want you to read and take to heart. It starts off with “When it seems impossible…..”
Starting today… starting RIGHT NOW… stop worrying about everything that can go wrong, and open yourself up to the possibility that something great can happen to YOU.
Have a GREAT weekend!