Ever since I started my survey asking all of you a few questions, I have realized that many of you want to take this whole “make money online” thing to the next level. Based on that, I am focusing my posts on helping to get folks to the next level.
My last post talked about being a T-Shaped online marketer. We talked about the skills we learn that make up our I-Shape…and the most important things that give us that profitable “T” shape.
Today I want to talk about another very important topic – resistance.
Resistance is a BIG deal when you are in charge of your own destiny when making money online.
For example, in this video I showed my own earnings after following pieces of a training program I really like. In that video I mentioned that those were my results. Naturally, no one can guarantee what your results will be – and one of the main reasons is that no one can guarantee how YOU handle resistance.
There are two types of resistance we have to deal with – internal and external.
Internal resistance is that self-imposed stuff –
and is a BIG reason why people don’t make it to the next level in this business.
Internal resistance is the things we tell ourselves to avoid doing something.
We internally tell ourselves that something is too hard, or we don’t have enough time…or the famous “I’ll do it later”.
Yes, these are excuses. Excuses hold us back more than anything else.
As you’ll hear in the video below:
“An excuse is all the separates us from who we are and who we want to be”
We all know where we are right now…and we know where we want to get to.
Internal resistance is what holds us back.
How well we deal with our own self-imposed internal resistance determines how much closer we get to where we want to be.
As you’ll hear, how we handle this type of internal self-sabotage is the difference between being an amateur and being a pro.
In fact, I wrote about my own struggle with this here at PotPieGirl.com back in 2007 (read: If Only I’d Get Out Of My Own Way)
The other type of resistance is external resistance.
External issues are things we really don’t have that much control over (ie, they’re not things we think to hold us back – they are things that just happen).
Sites break, plug ins break, things don’t work as expected….you know what I mean. The things that make us want to punch our fist through our monitors (been there, done that.. a LOT).
For many people, these things that go wrong are enough to flat-out stop them in their tracks. The others that get to the next level push through and go with it.
Is it easy? No, it’s not.
But it is the difference between here and where you want to be.
When I think back on my journey to the next level, I realize I have one (not so) charming quality that really helps me fight my own external resistance issues – I am super stubborn (yes, dear husband of mine, I just admitted it).
I am too stubborn to quit or to give up when things go wrong. I literally can’t rest until I figure it out.
I love in the following video when Tommy says that external resistance feels like the “universe HATES you” and won’t let you move forward.
Ever felt that way? I know I sure have… many, many times.
But then Tommy goes on to say that external resistance is “strongest when you’re on the cusp of doing something really great”.
I agree with him.
Also worth paying attention to in the video –
“Pros play hurt”- they “show up no matter what”.
When things break – we plow forward and make it work.
When we start hearing “you don’t have time” in our head – you make time.
When we tell ourselves we’ll do it later – we do it NOW.
That’s how we “turn Pro”.
That’s how we get to the next level.
Here’s the video – please watch it.
It’s only a little over 4 minutes, but it’s a powerful message. If you’re like me, you’ll want to bookmark it and watch it often – maybe every day.
Learning to deal with your resistance is KEY to taking it to the next level.
btw, Tommy Walker is AMAZING – you can follow him on Twitter here.
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